are looking at these days?
Is it inspiring?
Are they focused and dedicated to following that example?
Are they so excited they can’t wait
to get up in the morning to engage in those possibilities?
the American Dream most parents,
schools and society have shown them
just doesn’t seem to have them jumping for joy!
“Make something of yourself.”
“Follow your dreams” (as long as they are in line with our beliefs and ideals).
“Get a college education so you won’t be flipping burgers all your life.”
“Get an early start so there will be plenty of money at retirement
and your future will be secure.”
“Everyone has to do it, so buckle down right now
and get a head start on the inevitable.”
“Just discipline yourself.”
“People have to do things they don’t want to do.”
“That’s just the way it is.”
“Learn from our mistakes--You’ll be ahead of the game.”
“Don’t miss the boat.” (My was-band’s favorite!)
This is what they see:
Parents and a society as a whole who are--
Sick and unhealthy
Likely on some sort of antidepressant, high blood pressure or other medication
In a vast amount of debt
Filling every moment with things to do
and rushing from obligation to obligation
Getting up to an alarm clock everyday
Eating on a schedule wrapped around their job
Working at a job over 40 hours a week
(plus all the prepping time,
shopping for the appropriate attire, etc.)
to do something they would not do if they were not getting paid to do it.
Hating to go to work on Monday
Relieved to get off of work on Friday
Spending their “leisure time” to get their personal things done on their time off
Squeezing in time for a beer and a couch session
in front of the t.v. to finally relax
Getting only 2 weeks out of the entire year to do what they want to do
Excited to get that 2 week vacation to get away from their everyday life
Working all year to pay for that 2 week vacation
Taking 1 of those weeks to get relaxed
and the other to gear up to go back to work
Spending little time with their family and loved ones
Having little time for their hobbies, if they even know what those are
Eating out most of their meals--
spending a good portion of their paycheck on less than nutritious foods generally made by people
who don’t really care about health,
but simply collecting a paycheck
Working to own lot of things but have little or no time to really enjoy them
Waiting for retirement to do what they really want to do
Giving up many hours of their life’s energy to provide
unnecessary luxuries for their families
Working many hours to pay for taxes, permits, licenses, tickets, insurance, registrations...which don’t enhance their life at all.
Seeking entertainment to divert their focus away from
constantly having their nose to the grind
Their parent’s generation is the prime and only true example
The words of loving advice from their parents/society is to follow in their footstepsand just do it better
and faster than they did themselves
so kids won’t have to suffer like their parents did/do
The best food comes from grocery stores, (especially “health food stores”) and it’s expensive, so get a good job to feed your family
School/college is the only way to get educated
and have access to a future of survival.
There is no other way except to be poor, homeless and hungry
Modern medicine is tried and true--
get your checkups and stay on top of your health
There's something wrong with you if you can't fit into society
Take medication if you can’t concentrate on things that don’t excite you
This generation should prove that getting a jump start on the American Dream will set them free from unnecessary stress and undue hardship
Show us you can do it!
This is what is in store for them for the next many decades, so get used to it
Many have been rebellious and defiant,
others have become people pleasers.
They are saddened to let their parents down
and often have difficulties in parent/child relationships.
They have had to stand up for themselves and ended up feeling like the “black sheep”,
or submitted to the pressure,
going numb to avoid feeling terrible
about living their lives without passionate intention.
What many have expressed to me about all of that:
They are not excited, intrigued, inspired or on board
with their parent’s/society’s example.
They want to engage
in living for purpose,
not for chasing
the almighty dollar.
into something they don’t even care about now.
They want to be healthy naturally
and do not want to put pharmaceuticals and chemicals into their bodies.
They do not want to be in debt
(though many already are--
often more than their parents--
from chasing that proverbial college education).
They want to slow down and smell the roses.
They do not want to have a “job” they are doing solely for money.
They want free time to engage in their passions--
all of their time!
They do not want to be obligated to the ideas of others.
They want their life to be a vacation--
meaning that it is a life they are excited to live
and get up to engage in every day with joy.
They want to spend copious amounts of time with their loved ones
They want fresh,
perhaps grown with
their own hands.
They want to live in the present moment
rather than for a piece of paper or a better life sometime in the future
that may never come.
They want to spend their resources on things of value
and meaningful to them,
not on many apparently obligatory societal certificates,
registration and other money and energy sucking realities.
They want their entertainment to be their life,
not something separate from it.
They cannot, in honor of themselves,
make their lives about things that have little significance to them.
Since the example set and presented
is not what they feel is in their highest good,
they want something else,
but don’t know what that is or if it even exists at all.
They have always known somewhere inside
that things as they are in society today
are not optimal or sustainable,
but have been convinced there is no other way.
and what we have done about it at the GOE:
~Believe that anything is possible~
~Remember this is our life
and our opportunity to thrive~
~Remember each individual part we play on this planet
we are each like no other~
~Choose for ourselves
from a place of awe and inspiration~
~Find the healthiest, happiest, most badass people
we can find and connect with them~
~Then help each other to find the way~
together we can do anything~
~Freedom comes ONLY with responsibility~
~Be responsible for our own happiness,
all of our own feelings,
~Be free to be ourselves,
as long as we do not tread on the freedom of others~
Do not blame others or play the victim role~
~Do not expect others to change
to make us feel better about ourselves~
~Live by values,
~Tune into all the things
for which we are grateful!~
~Know that an example already exists--
there are people already living “the dream”~
~Here we are!!!~
~We are the creators of our own realities~