Children are very raw and real.
They tell you like it is.
They show you how they feel.
That is, unless we squash the realness out of them.
You see, it's really isn't about raising them to be acceptable to society,
it's about honoring their being.
We are on a soul journey together.
We can make it what we want.
Why not make it easy, fluid, enjoyable and juici-licous?
Why not really bask in their presence here on this planet,
and tune into the evolution they so freely share?
We all know that children learn from their environment. They mimic what they experience. So the first thing we can do to guide them, is to take a long hard look at ourselves as parents/caregivers and set an amazing example.
The truth is, children are mirrors of their parents and caregivers, especially when they are young, carrying around the energetics of the generations before. When our children behave in ways we do not like, instead of acting to discipline or correct them, it is wise to first check our own behavior, and see what it is we are instilling in them.
Let’s take a scenario, for example: Say your child seems to be needy, always wanting your attention, to be held, to be the center of everything, to be first, noticed, recognized or acknowledged, or interrupts, is demanding or bossy to get what he wants. HERE ARE A FEW THINGS YOU CAN DO:
- Be thankful! Acknowledge that he is your mirror and is giving you the gift of conscious engagement. It’s a blessing!
- Stop what you’re doing and give him your undivided attention! Some parents might say that the child is manipulating them with the needy behavior and therefore don’t want to give it any attention. The trick is to be in tune with the child and notice when those feelings are coming up, nipping it in the bud BEFORE it really turns into something. Nothing is more important than helping your child feel secure and cared for. Often times he just wants a few moments of your time to reconnect, to feel he matters, and to get a bit of loving. The more he feels he can count on you to be there when he feels he needs you, the less likely he is to have to make a big deal of getting your attention. If he doesn't get your attention right away, he will likely escalate his behavior to get your attention and make sure you notice him. Noticing him after he has amplified the behavior, then gets him your attention and validates his behavior. Sometimes children/people feel negative attention is better than no attention at all.
- Be honest with yourself! Meditate on the situation to see if you feel the same inside. Are you feeling that you need more attention, more affection, more assistance, or to be given more time or recognition? Or perhaps you have a need to be needed to boost your own value and self worth. If you are needy, he will pick up on that quickly and show you your own behaviors.
- Communicate with your child! Share with your child your own feelings, acknowledging that you too feel the same at times, and talk about what you can both do to get your needs met. Children often have great solutions, so asking their input can not only diffuse the neediness, but can also lead to a better outcome overall.
Always ask how can it be done better?" @quinneaker
Engage our children (ideally) from the time they are young with unconditional love, honor, and respect,
Take responsibility for our own dysfunctions,
Question our beliefs on what is right/wrong/good/bad/acceptable/inappropriate,
Break the cycle of predetermined mindsets of generations before,
Guide our children into a fully responsible, self-directed, and self-empowered life,
Accept, acknowledge and support the divine light we each bring to the planet,
Internalize these changes….
WE CAN OVERCOME...
The conditioned reactions we have take on as our own,
The fallacy of all the “correct” and “appropriate’ ways we have been taught are truth,
Wasting mass amount of energy it takes to get others to comply or stay in line,
Putting our own ideas onto others,
The tension and conflict it creates...
WE WILL UPGRADE OUR LIVES BY...
Seeing the thoughts of old are not the most beneficial way.
Taking responsibility for ourselves and helping our children be responsible for themselves.
Changing the way we engage one another.
Becoming more vulnerable.
Becoming better communicators.
Working through our own demons.
Designing amazing relationships and life together.
And experiencing more harmony and peace than ever before.
Dare we take the challenge for our own sake--
for the children’s sake--
for the sake of the future of mankind ???